How do you keep your work problems at work and keep them from affecting your personal life? I really want to know.
I've been trying so hard to do just that. I've been so down at work lately, so hopeless and unsure of my next move, which is of course really exhausting. I try to not let those feelings come home with me. I have such a good time in my non-work life. I have a lot going for me in that regard and I've found people and activities that make me really happy and at peace... but then, those work problems creep in.
Sometimes, I let them in because I like to be proactive, almost to a fault, and have Plans A, B, and C mapped out in my mind before any shit hits the fan. But a lot of the time, it sneaks up on me and before I know it, I'm melting down over something insignificant and ultimately my mind ends up on the land mine that is my career right now and I cry even harder.
I guess it's always there, in the deep recesses of my brain. That feeling that I've failed, that it hasn't gone the way it was supposed to go, that old "what the fuck am I going to do now" sensation. I know work isn't everything, it isn't even the most important thing, but I miss feeling confident and competent on the job.
A lot of it isn't my fault, but it's still placed on my shoulders, and anyway, I don't want to get into all that right now.
So really, what I want to know is... how the fuck do I leave that negativity at work? Especially for those times I am caught unaware?
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It's actually impossible for me to do that when I'm going through something particularly stressful. I bring it home, I vent, I get feedback, and then I force myself to not talk about it for the rest of the night. So I feel like I give its due attention, and then force myself to think about other things even as it lurks in the back of my mind. But then, eventually, as things improve with the situation, and they always do one way or another, I am able to not think about it for very long stretches of time. Ultimately, it's the same mantra with all unpleasant things in life: "This too shall pass."
Thanks. I guess the key may be to get it out of my system and then try to ignore it.
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